Divorce and Credit Card Debt

When a marriage comes to an end, it’s always a tragedy. Of course the rending of the family unit and the difficulty for the kids is the hardest thing about separating at divorce. But the difficulty of separating one house into two can be difficult and tedious to say the least. You have to go from one checking account to two, two homes instead of one and separate accounts for everything from credit cards to utilities.

The is an additional overhead to how to handle a divorce situation if in addition to splitting your assets, credit card debt that may have been a part of the shared family financial picture also must be split up. To the credit card company, that family credit card is the property of that shared entity which was the marriage. So when the union splits up, the transition from a financial point of view of your accounts separating is not over night.

So one of the many issues to be discussed and a plan made for is how to separate that credit card debt. Whoever continues to hold the family accounts will continue to get those bills and be expected to pay them. Now the least preferable way to handle the debt is to build the payments into any forced settlement agreement such as child support. So at the time the divorce is final, the amount of the debt and the payments that must be made could be calculated and half of that put into the amount that the income generating partner must provide.

But that leaves the management of those credit card debts to one partner and the other one just has to pay a set amount. And if the credit cards get used by either partner, that legal amount would have to constantly be changed and that would prove to be a constant headache of administration.

If the divorce is a shared responsibility so each spouse can work with the other to adjust the financial picture in an advantageous way, then how to separate the credit card debt should be part of that planning. Part of that planning is how to use shared assets to pay down that debt. You may have a home that will be sold, retirement accounts or other assets that were set aside for the future of the marriage. Before you sell those things, close those accounts and distribute the funds, look at using the outcome to retire that shared debt.

But it’s likely some of that debt load will live on past the divorce. In those cases splitting into two individual accounts may be the way to go. In that way, if the family was carrying $10,000 in debt, if each marriage partner walks away with $5000 of the debt, that is at least fair and equitable and how each individual handles that debt is up to them.

There are two ways you can go about splitting the credit card debt. If the debt is with a carrier with whom you can negotiate and conduct a dialog, getting a meeting or having a conference call with the managers there would be productive. The credit card company would far rather negotiate with you how to handle this debt load then deal with it chaotically after the fact. So they may be willing to set up separate individual accounts and split the debt for you.

But you can always use the method many of us have used to manage credit card debt up until now. Each of you can set up some new separate credit card accounts. You no doubt have dozens of credit card offers coming in that you can use to kick off this process. Almost always part of the set up offers for these accounts are balance transfers. So if you take out individual accounts and use the balance transfers to move each partners shared part of the debt to those accounts, that would be a clean way to split the debt up.

There may be adjustments to be made to the 50-50 split idea based on who is the primary bread winner and maybe who ran up the debt and on what. But by negotiating the terms of how you are going to separate the credit card debt when you separate the marriage, that will be one more than that you are handling in a mature and responsible manner in the middle of a very tough situation.

How To Build Good Credit

Credit comes with pitfalls. We are told this regularly and for many people it seems to be all they ever hear about the process of paying with credit. However, if managed to your advantage, you can make credit cards work for you. Bear in mind that banks and lenders are quick to add charges to accounts when they feel that there is an opportunity to do so – and don’t give them the chance to do it. Do you believe that it costs them that much to administer to your late payment? Of course not – so make sure you are in the driving seat.

To do this, it is a matter of using credit in ways that the bank won’t recommend. The “monthly” payment on your credit card will usually be set at a small percentage of the balance, and the bank will be happy for you to only ever pay that, because you will pay off more than you ever borrow. Interest, plus any charges, will amount to as much money as you borrowed in the first place. However, you can pay more than the monthly payment, so here is how to make it work for you.

When you take out a credit card, use it as you would use an ATM or debit card. Pay for groceries with it when you get your wages at the end of the month, and then instantly pay the balance off in full. For a while, live off credit and use the money that goes into these costs to make payments to your card. Your credit rating will soar. Your bank will offer you better terms. You’ll be in the driving seat.

How To Turn Things Around

It is a very rare kind of person that does not have money problems at some point in your life. It is important to realize in the circumstances that missing a single payment on your credit card does not make you a bad person, a financially reckless individual or a debt risk. This is not because it is fine to miss a credit payment – ideally, it won’t happen to you – but because there is a way back from credit problems. You need to be concentrated on finding that way back and taking it – but as long as you keep a clear head, this is more than manageable.

Missing one credit card payment is unlikely to strip you of a positive credit rating in one fell swoop. What you need to keep in mind is that there are very good reasons to treat your first missed payment as a warning sign. If you fall into longer term problems with debt, it will be much harder to escape them. For this reason you should focus on that payment and tell yourself that it won’t happen again. Pay attention to making the payment when you can, and meeting the next one when it becomes due. By sticking to this promise to yourself you will make it far more likely that the one missed payment was an aberration. If you think that you will have problems making payments going forward, look for alternative solutions such as consolidation or debt management, rather than letting the problem grow.

Unsecured Credit – You Still May Lose More Than You Gain

Although there are obvious pitfalls to taking out a mortgage or a new car loan which are not a problem with unsecured credit, there is no doubt that unsecured borrowing can still be a very risky endeavor. Just because the lender cannot repossess your possessions to make good on the loan, this does not mean that you cannot be put in a very risky situation financially. The first thing that will happen when you miss a payment on a loan or credit card is that you will go into the company’s “collections” file and they will pursue you for payment.

As well as entering the collections department, you will find that your credit record will contain the information of your missed payment. There are certain kinds of borrowing that are available to people with perfect credit ratings, including loans that have extremely low interest rates. A black mark on your credit rating will be enough to disbar you from ever qualifying for such lending, and will mean that any credit you do get will be very much on the lender’s terms.

Borrowing money can be the solution to a problem in a number of situations, but it is important to realize that without the continued means to pay the money back you will be placed in a very troublesome situation. Sometimes the best way to deal with the pitfalls of unsecured lending is just not to borrow at all. It may make for a difficult situation, but it will be one without unpleasant letters and phone calls.